Sarah, a 37-year-old mum of three, employed me as her personal trainer on the Wirral a few years ago. She told me she had reached a plateau in her fitness journey. Despite her initial enthusiasm, the grind of daily workouts began to feel more like an obligation than a passion, causing her motivation to wane.
The dips in motivation resulted in her losing consistency with her exercise and nutrition habits, which had the obvious impact of neutralising her previous results. Sarah, like most people wanting to get fit, lose fat, and gain strength, had reached the dreaded peaks and troughs cycle.
During the consultation process, I ask every person who wants to achieve their goals the same question: 'What is the deep, meaningful reason why you want to change your body?'
Most people give answers like 'to be more body confident' or 'to look great on holiday coming up in six weeks' (good luck with that). Although these are perfectly good reasons (other than the delusional time frames), I probe deeper to establish why.
Most people struggle here and are unable to overcome their top-of-mind insecurity or desire. Sarah followed suit and couldn't give me a more meaningful reason to achieve her goal.
Side note: During my consultations, I help coach you through this process of clear goal setting and establishing your reasons why. If you wish to book in you can visit this page here.
Back to Sarah... I said, 'If you had more energy and vitality because you had good cardiovascular fitness, do you think you'd be an even better mother to your kids?' 'Yes, absolutely,' she replied. I continued, 'If you were physically stronger, would you be able to do more in your day and be more active with your family?' she nodded. I then delivered the big punch, 'Do you think having a fit, lean, and toned body would make you more appealing to your husband?'. From her expression, I could see that one landed hard.
I then told Sarah that if she considered the combined power of all of these reasons, she could tap into a deep internal driving force directly connected to her fitness journey.
Some people will think my questioning is manipulative or emotionally intrusive. Bottom line, you'd do very well to find no truth or evidence in those answers. I'm simply pointing people toward the facts of human behaviour and the reality of life.
If you're too tired to put time into your kids, don't be surprised if they grow up to be the kind of people others don't like. If you don't spend time being active with your kids, then don't be surprised if they become obese teenagers (just so you know, 40% of teens in the UK today are overweight/obese).
And suppose you become less sexually attractive to your partner. In that case, it shouldn't come as a shock if they stray away, leave the relationship, or allow the relationship to lose intimacy. Sorry, but the facts are the facts!
Back to Sarah, she had thankfully accepted the realisation of how important this is for her, her kids, and her relationship. I remember the determination in her body language, and her words were, 'Right, Lewis, let's get this started.'
Fast-forward three years, and Sarah has become a fitness queen. She runs 2-3 5km runs a week and functional strength training three times a week. She also has a fit and toned body that a lot of bikini competitors would be happy about. Although she finished her personal training journey with me after one year, Sarah had everything she needed to stay consistent due to the powerful driving force she was consciously aware of.
Sarah's story is a testament to the power of discovering a deep, intrinsic drive—the fuel that keeps our discipline consistent even when life is chaotic or energy levels are low. When the driving force is strong enough, you will never run out of energy or will to continue.
This concept of 'Drive' as a visceral inner force that propels us toward our fitness goals is crucial. It's brilliantly encapsulated in Daniel Pink's book, "Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us." When I read this book, I was immediately motivated to achieve my own goals and share this information with my clients.
Let's delve into how understanding and cultivating this drive changes the game to transform your body.
In his book, Pink's exploration of motivation through Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose provides a framework that can dramatically enhance our engagement and consistency in fitness:
Gamify your fitness performance is an excellent way to keep motivated because you can literally see tangible progress every day/week. So, get focused on beating your scores!
When your motivations are clear and deeply rooted in your values, discipline becomes less about forcing yourself to follow an exercise routine and more about pursuing something you genuinely care about. This alignment transforms discipline from a battle to a more effortless adherence to a lifestyle that you value.
This is exactly how you become dedicated to your pursuit. You might even be called obsessed by those around you, and that's fine. You just keep focused on what matters and try to find others who are on the same path as you!
Setting visionary goals is essential for maintaining drive. These goals should be challenging, exciting, and deeply aligned with your personal aspirations and life values. They should inspire you and make the path toward achieving them fulfilling. Once you've answered the questions below, create a vision board of all the benefits of how your life will look when you achieve your goals. Look at these questions and visions every morning whilst drinking that all-important coffee.
The emotional rewards of drive—like the great feeling of hitting a personal best, the elation of progress, and the satisfaction of overcoming tough challenges, will all significantly enhance your motivation. Celebrate these wins, no matter how small, as they are the milestones that mark your journey. Keep enjoying the wins.
The research underscores the importance of finding a deep, internal drive to maintain motivation. Let's look at two studies that illustrate this dynamic:
Identifying and nurturing your 'why'—the deep reasons that motivate you to stay fit—is crucial. Here are some strategies to help uncover and sustain your drive:
The journey to unwavering fitness discipline starts with igniting your drive. Understanding what motivates us from within—whether it's the autonomy to choose how we exercise, the mastery of our physical challenges, or the purpose behind our efforts—can transform the routine of exercise into a source of daily inspiration.
Embrace these insights and strategies to fuel your fitness journey with a renewed sense of passion and perseverance. Remember, the power of drive is not just in achieving fitness goals but in transforming how we view discipline and motivation in every aspect of our lives. Let's move forward with a strong drive that propels us towards our fitness goals and enriches our entire life experience.
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Keep fit, lean, and strong.
Lewis
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